Sunday, August 9, 2015

Keep Standing by Denise Chand

As spirit-filled, born-again Believers, we have (or should have) enormous faith to ride any tidal wave that comes our way to rock and/or upturn our boat. The measure of faith we exhibit will determine whether we’ll sink or keep above waters. Life-storms will cause people of faith to be shaken, even bruised, but not destroyed. In our book, Single and Hating It, we show the struggles (authentic challenges) the two characters, Liya and Zenia, have battled through in order not to sink and be destroyed. Is there a formulaic approach in getting through life-storms? We most definitely believe so. The Bible! As detailed in our book, we reveal the Word of God for daily living—and we all know daily living doesn’t mean always living with sunshine and daisies from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed. Life happens and it happens to all of us. Yes folks, it’s a fact…life happens to even Believers. But it’s all about how we respond, or react, to when $@#! happens (Oh oh, did I say the “s” word…yes, I did. Honestly, when all hell is breaking loose, myrrh doesn’t always spew out of my mouth!).

This same faith we’re to exhibit for daily living we’re also to apply when believing God for a Godmate. In our book, we see Liya and Zenia being transparent with their inner battles—and often times when the pain would pierce through to the core of their souls they didn’t have a holier-than-thou approach towards their situation. They didn’t create a façade of living in the clouds, or living daily in sunshine with daisies. They’re straight-up real! We see their faith being challenged; we see temptation luring its head in their situations; we see temper tantrums before God; we see cat-fights and betrayal between the two where their friendship is challenged—we see life happening to each of them, and just because they’re born-again, spirit-filled Christians, it doesn’t exempt them from experiencing life-storms. They’re not given amnesty! If we’re honest with ourselves, we can relate to Liya and Zenia. We can identify with their situations and even how they’ve reacted and responded.

Waiting for a Godmate can be tiresome, where we question if it’ll ever happen. Some of us have even surmise that it isn’t meant to be and have allowed the candle of hope to burn out. Understandably so, we’ve all been there or are presently there. But we can’t park and build a tent there. We’ve all had our share of experiences, some more challenging than others, but in spite of it all we’re still standing—praise God. As Believers, we know there’s a purpose and plan for our lives. Therefore, we can’t allow anything or anyone to hold us back or down. We can’t entertain doubt. A failed relationship and/or being still single and waiting doesn’t make us failures or cursed. Liya and Zenia fought with every fiber of their being, and pushed to have the God-kind of faith to keep hope alive. Hope is what keeps us moving beyond the disappointments we’ve had in our lives. As Liya and Zenia did, we too must find a scripture (or scriptures) to be our anchor for when the tidal waves come.

We’re standing with you in faith and agreement for a Godmate!
Blessings,
Denise

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Wednesday, May 14, 2014

#MyBeautifulIS Series: Someone Tell Me Am I Beautiful?

In our formative years, our parents, relatives, caregivers and those in a position of influence in our lives, whether knowingly or not, help shape the image and perception of beauty we hold of ourselves. We share our personal experience. If you know of someone raising a child or someone who suffers with an unhealthy self-image stemming from childhood, please share this Youtube clip. In this sense, sharing really is caring.

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Thursday, April 10, 2014

Great Minds Are To Make Others Great By Denise Chand

“Great minds are to make others great. Their superiority is to be used, not to break the multitude to intellectual vassalage, not to establish over them a spiritual tyranny, but to rouse them from lethargy, and to aid them to judge for themselves.” – William Ellery Channing

The unfortunate reality is there are some, not all, leaders who fall in the category of spiritual dominance over innocent, despondent members seeking some sort of reprieve from the trials they’re under [speaking from personal experience, unfortunately]. The human body is God’s greatest masterpiece; the brain is a formidable tool for the affairs of life. We’re not animals, nor mindless automatons, and should use our brain to reason, of course with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

Some may wonder why I’m blogging so often on such a sensitive topic, when I’m a born-again Believer of Jesus Christ and know the teachings of the Bible. It’s quite simple…I’m baffled and can’t fathom or justify why people, intelligent Believers that is, who were skillfully designed by God, would permit themselves to be brought to such a place of control by another human being – we’re to give our lives to Christ, not man, aren’t we? I certainly understand the psychology of such submission and meekness, yet I’m still baffled by it. I guess this is what makes me human! If Jesus’ resurrection was to bring freedom/liberation to mankind, then relinquishing  one’s inherent human right of free will and ability to judge for ourselves into the hands of another draws into question the purpose of mankind and His death and resurrection. We were never created to be dominated. If I can be that clink to startle someone out of their stupor, let it be so. I certainly have been startled out of being in a stupor for a few years, and have developed a stronger more intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit will make you sharper than a whip!

I must reaffirm NOT ALL churches, ministries, leaders, pastors function in this unfortunate manner, but speaks of the few that wreak havoc on the soul of the innocent.

May you prosper greatly in every area of your life!

God Bless,
Denise

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Sunday, March 10, 2013

Soul Cry By Denise Chand

You chose me from among many. You told me I was unique and blessed among others.
I believed you. I felt special and set apart.
Your words were intoxicating, like sweet smelling myrrh dripping from your lips. I was mesmerized.
I trusted you. I became a faithful believer.
It was in the way you moved, how you handled matters of the heart and life, how you spoke, your gentleness, attentiveness and compassionate nature.
I exhaled. 
Nothing mattered anymore, no one but you! You saved me from me. The emptiness, the deep rooted pain disappeared all because of you.
I liked who I had become.
A relationship with you was none like any other I've had. I cherished this relationship...I cherished you.
You knew everything about me...How? It was as if you studied me from conception. WOW!
I was in love and only desired to please you. I wanted....No, I needed you to stay and never leave like the others.
Your love was unconditional...mine was tainted and twisted from the past but because of you I desired to mature in love. 
I abandoned myself into your care, trust and love...I abandoned everyone and anything that came between us.
You taught me so much...about myself, life, people, relationships and most of all about love.
Life was absolutely perfect!
When I called upon you, in an instant you were there attending to my every need and desire.
Blessed, I truly was and envied by others.
Then, like a thief in the night, without warning I felt you were disappearing, distancing and silencing yourself from me. Why?
My world was beginning to crumble right under my feet.
I questioned myself...Where did I go wrong? What did I do to anger you? 
Everyday I called you, I wrote to you, I even visited your house as if I was a stalker, but no reply, no response…
You had disappeared just like the others.
You broke my heart...just like the others.  
I continued searching for you...I cried myself a river and there too you were not to be found. 
I couldn't go on without you. I was nothing without you; lost without you...I was deflated without you.
Panic, fear and anxiety consumed me. I tortured myself emotionally. Jealous, I was not but angry you bet I was.
I gave up everything for you!
I felt my soul pinning away. I threw my hands in the air pleading, crying and begging. And then to my surprise you finally decided to respond and answer my endless calls to you.
Without an explanation for your disappearing act you replied "I would never leave you nor forsake you."
In utter dismay yet silently feeling elated, I replied "But why does it feel as if you did, God?"

Ever feel this way when it seems that God has silenced Himself from you? Longing for answers to your prayers, change in your life, change in unfavourable circumstances; you’re told He’s only a breath away but yet it seems He’s no where to be found or near you. You're not alone. However, the truth is He did choose you, you didn't choose Him, He called and appointed you for a purpose and He'll certainly see it to fruition...thus, He'll never you nor forsake you!

May you prosper greatly in every area of your life!

God Bless,
Denise

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Sunday, December 9, 2012

REPOST: 2012 PHENOMENON - Doomsday Prophecy By Denise Chand

This is one of my post from earlier this year and I thought it fitting to re-post it given the fast approaching doomsday prediction of December 21, 2012 and the new year 2013 on the horizon.


Hope you enjoy and do share your comments. I would love to hear from you!

It’s 11 days into the New Year and I’d like to share a little on what’s been buzzing around my ear and eye gates, and yours - THE 2012 PHENOMENON! The Internet has hijacked the minds of many with the speculation that the world will end in December of 2012.  The doomsday prediction that December 21, 2012 marks the end of the world according to the 5,125 year-long Mayan long count calendar, or the earth may undergo a physical or spiritual transformation has instilled an intense fear in many, just like the Y2K scare. Remember Y2K (the Year 2000 Problem)? And remember when Harold Camping predicted the Apocalypse – October 21, 2011, where many would have been left behind to die? The world didn’t end on either of these two predicted dates, did it?  Recently it’s been reported that the world will end in 500 million years, where the earth will cook itself due to overheating by the sun. Praise the Lord I wouldn’t be around in 500 million years to fall into that melting pot!

Let’s not get too far away from the truth…the Bible! The Bible speaks of the last days and I believe we are in the last days. When exactly will Jesus return? I don’t know, but I don’t believe it’s December 2012.  So hold off on stocking up on groceries; partying like it’s 1999(for those wondering why 1999, it’s a Prince song!); shopping till you drop by maxing your credit cards; or fulfilling fancies you wouldn’t dare consider if you knew you would live to a ripe old age.  However, 2012 can be a phenomenal year for each of us, where we can become a phenomenon in our own right but that would be a personal decision…a decision which will require a relentless pursuit, a fierce focus, to fulfill realistic goals.

We all know (or should know) we can’t keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect to see change. That’s a statement of fact! For our lives to change we must change our mindset – our thinking must change.

I’m quite certain there are many things you had wanted to achieve in 2011 but were unable to accomplish them, or at some point in the year you just lost the motivation/inspiration to fulfill them. If you’re like me, I begin to examine those unaccomplished “things” during the month of December and beat myself down to a pulp for allowing the year to come to an end without attaining them.  An unfulfilled feeling then begins to engulf me (yes, I’m very hard on myself!). And usually by the third week of January, I would see the year as being over - I know, I’m a little too dramatic but that’s how I perceive time…perpetually moving at a rapid pace.  Don’t despair; I never remain “there” for too long!  I immediately begin to reflect on the year which had just passed and endeavour to figure out where and why things went unfulfilled. This process allows me to strategize and manage myself accordingly for each day in the new year, to ensure by the end of the year I’ve accomplished those things.

The things we endeavour to accomplish can be anything; there’s no scale to measure its relevance – it’s all relative. Whatever those unaccomplished things are, make up your mind today, not later tonight, not tomorrow, not over the weekend, but today, to achieve them this year - 2012!  It starts with each day…doing something.  Do you want to lose weight? Do you want to start living a healthy lifestyle through exercise and proper nutrition? Do you want to do more for your community? Do you desire a more intimate relationship with God, your spouse, your children, your siblings, yourself?  Do you want to fulfill the dreams/purpose God has placed in your heart? Do you want to change something about yourself you don’t like; for example, your temper, your negative outlook on life, procrastination, etc? Do you want to get out of debt, earn more money? Do you want to attend a continuing education program to develop a skill or just gain knowledge on something to invest in yourself? Do you want to excel in what you’re currently doing? Do you want to meet your husband? Do you want out of a toxic relationship or friendship (My friend, let that man go if he’s toxic to your soul or cut ties with that toxic friend – they’ll keep you back and hold you down. It’s time to let go!)? As you can see the list is endless and it’s all very important.

Make up your mind to do something different each day that you’ve never done before, in order to begin to achieve these things.  Keep moving forward…it takes one single step to move forward. I guarantee by the end of 2012 you’ll feel accomplished, making it a phenomenal year!

Remember, God wants your joy to be full all the time, and He wants you to live in victory everyday, not once a week or once a month…but every single day! 

“The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows).” (John 10:10 AMP)

Fear is the enemy of the human will; when we fear we cannot act; fear is ugly and has the ability to paralyze us. Don’t fear failure, or fall prey to excuses for not doing something, lose motivation, comparing yourself to others or becoming slothful in your pursuit of fulfillment. Jesus came so that we can enjoy life and live it to the full, till it overflows! 

“You have not chosen Me, but I have chosen you and I have appointed you [I have planted you], that you might go and bear fruit and keep on bearing, and that your fruit may be lasting [that it may remain, abide], so that whatever you ask the Father in My Name [as presenting all that I AM], He may give it to you.”(John 15:16 AMP)

The things you’ve outlined for 2012 can be successful. You’ve been predestined to be fruitful and function in excellence - this is why this year can be a phenomenal year for you, but it’s your decision!

May you prosper greatly in every area of your life!

God Bless,
Denise

P.S. I know you’ve heard the aforementioned a million times over through email forwards, television, newspapers, magazines, radio, church sermons, friends – you probably received books on the subject as gifts for Christmas, but it certainly doesn't hurt to be reminded of it!

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Thursday, February 23, 2012

“…You Shoulda Put A Ring On It.” - By Denise Chand

Beyonce meant well when she said “…you shoulda put a ring on it.” Looking back, I’m certain a lot of us are probably happy that he didn’t!  I believe the “Just cried my tears, for three good years” could have been avoided, where you didn’t have to tell him “Don't treat me to the things of the world. I'm not that kind of girl. Your love is what I prefer, what I deserve.” If we don’t love ourselves, how can we expect someone else to love us? If we don’t know what we deserve, how can we expect someone else to give us what we deserve? Crying ourselves a river must come to an end…enough is enough, don’t you think?

All the Single Ladies, before diving into a relationship you first need to APPRECIATE who you are; meaning, maximizing your single status! Who are you? What are your God-given dreams? What’s your God-given purpose? What does the Word of God say about you? Once you’ve come to the true realization of who you are in Christ, you’ll then appreciate yourself and begin to make wise decisions about every area of your life, specifically relationships. You'll function in wisdom rather than emotions/feelings before entering into just any relationship. I've maximized my singleness with the help of the Holy Spirit in knowing who I am - it was a seminal moment when I was awakened to who I am. God has given me big dreams and a purpose, which at times can become overwhelming, but I appreciate who I am and because of this I now make wiser decisions when it comes to relationships rather than being moved by emotions. My emotions waiver so I can't make lifelong decisions based on them! I know God has given you big dreams as well and you were born with a purpose. Refuse to allow wrong/foolish decisions to destroy your dreams and God-given purpose. Appreciating who you are will save you from heartaches, failed relationships and failed marriages…a wedding is by and large cheaper than a divorce. I hear ya, Denise, the one who seems to live in a heart-shaped balloon, but do you know how old I am and how long I’ve been waiting?  First of all, I don’t live in a heart-shaped balloon; I abide in Him, who abides in me…Christ in me is the hope of all glory! Ladies, God knows the plans (many plans) He has for you, they’re plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. So begin to appreciate yourself and appreciate what the Word of God says about you!

I don’t believe in “we can’t help who we fall in love with”. I believe it’s a choice – we choose who we want to love, and therefore enter into a relationship with that person. If you wrap your mind around the aforementioned, you’ll come to understand “appreciating yourself”, and therefore you’ll make wiser choices with whom you enter into a relationship with. Sure, he may dress fine, look fine, smell fine (cologne can intoxicate you to the point that your vision begins to blur, I know…so take a deep breath and exhale!), talk fine but he could be far from fine where your purpose is concerned. Think about what I’m saying!

I'm extending the olive branch to you to bring peace to any inner conflicts you may have regarding relationships or that man who is currently pursuing you. Discover who you are, appreciate yourself (your dreams, your purpose, your integrity, your values, etc.) and then walk in that consciousness and allow wisdom to guide you. Let no person, situation, thing or emotion sway you away from your God-given purpose and dreams -- you’ll regret it when the curtain comes down!

“Many, O LORD my God, are the wonders you have done. The things you planned for us no one can recount to you; were I to speak and tell of them, they would be too many to declare.” Psalms 40:5
Maximize your singleness!

God Bless
Denise

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Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Valentine’s Day – So What’s A Single Girl To Do – By Denise Chand

The rose is red, the violet's blue
The honey's sweet, and so are you
Thou are my love and I am thine
I drew thee to my Valentine…
We just finished celebrating Christmas and New Year’s Eve and now Valentine’s Day is upon us, one of the most dreaded days of the year for many singles and probably some couples. I recently read where a guy gave tips on how to save money…his strategy was to break up with your girlfriend right before Valentine’s Day and then get back together afterwards. I chuckled when I read it as I know it was a facetious remark - we all know that’s not how to function in any relationship. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be expensive, where couples are spending excessively in order to make their partner happy – but if he/she wants to do it, kudos to them. Though it warms the heart seeing “love in the air” on each February 14th and the weeks leading up to it with romantic gift suggestions adorning store fronts, soul touching commercials, radio stations hyping up events for nightclubs, publications consumed with relationship advice and gift suggestions, and let’s not forget restaurants adding “couple’s specials” to their menus, the appreciation of love for that special person in your life should be shown everyday regardless of how busy life becomes with your daily regime. And I’m certain there are many couples who do celebrate their love – for each other – on a daily basis. But Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be a day in the calendar year for only couples while singles are being reminded they’re single and hating it. Emphatically no! So what’s a single girl to do on Valentine’s Day? Well, we certainly can’t remove February 14th off the calendar.

Yes, roses are red and violets are blue and honey is certainly sweet and, girlfriend, so are you! You’re like a rose in God’s garden. As surely as violets are blue, the Holy Spirit living in you makes you an extraordinary woman. Honey is no doubt sweet but too much will certainly make anyone sick, but the sweetness of your nature will make that man God has for you feel like a king. In the meantime what’s a single girl to do on Valentine’s Day? I’ll tell you what you shouldn’t do: don’t allow the actual day to pull you into feeling sorrowful or lonely, or take you on a daunting journey leaving you completely despondent, or begrudging those who are in relationships – simply put, don’t allow “cupid’s arrow” to pierce you in the heart! What you should do is go out for dinner with your girlfriends, catch a movie with a friend, bless someone with an act of kindness, or since Valentine’s Day falls on a Tuesday this year watch Glee and enjoy a good musical – or simply do what you normally do on a Tuesday night! The world is your canvass, paint away!

Rest assured beautiful woman of God, the Holy Spirit who lives in you, is your comforter, counsellor, helper, intercessor, advocate, strengthener and standby. He saw you before you were born and every day of your life is recorded. He’s well acquainted with your ways. His plan for you is not to harm you – remember that! He made your heart so He knows all that’s in there. Allow these truths to resonate in your spirit and walk in that consciousness daily.

When we come to the awareness that God knows what “time it is”, we’ll be free from chronos time and operate in kairos time. Remember, there is a book of remembrance that has been written concerning you, so God knows what time it is in your life!

Keep your light shining bright, keep hope alive, never let your dreams die and soon your heart will sing a new song! 
The watchmen who make the rounds in the city found me, And I said, 'Have you seen him whom my soul loves?' Songs of Solomon 3:3 
May you prosper greatly!

God Bless
Denise
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